Comments on: Renewed http://hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/ Dr. Roger D. Butner - Counseling You and Your Family Through the Storms of Life Fri, 03 Feb 2012 20:11:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Roger http://hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Roger Wed, 30 Jul 2008 13:58:43 +0000 http://www.hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/#comment-64 Lori, I am so glad my blogging is making a difference for you guys! It's a good encouragement/reminder for me to keep active and current with it by making it a priority. And I can so relate to your response to Sacred Marriage and your comments about intellectualizing-legalizing. Sometimes I can really get upset at the mirrors God offers me, because I don't like the pictures I see of my self. I just have to keep remembering two important things: 1. God really loves the screw-up I see in the mirror. (For a great song, check out "Refrigerator Art" on Allen Levi's album, Talking with Tyler.) 2. Looking in a mirror may not be pleasant, but at least it gives me a chance to see what's messy and do something about it. And, if I'm willing, I can even see and enjoy the improvements in the looking glass along the way. Lori,

I am so glad my blogging is making a difference for you guys! It’s a good encouragement/reminder for me to keep active and current with it by making it a priority. And I can so relate to your response to Sacred Marriage and your comments about intellectualizing-legalizing. Sometimes I can really get upset at the mirrors God offers me, because I don’t like the pictures I see of my self. I just have to keep remembering two important things:

1. God really loves the screw-up I see in the mirror. (For a great song, check out “Refrigerator Art” on Allen Levi’s album, Talking with Tyler.)

2. Looking in a mirror may not be pleasant, but at least it gives me a chance to see what’s messy and do something about it. And, if I’m willing, I can even see and enjoy the improvements in the looking glass along the way.

]]> By: Lori Thacker http://hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Lori Thacker Wed, 30 Jul 2008 03:48:23 +0000 http://www.hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/#comment-63 I'm glad you're human, Doc. I think it's the life experience that gives you guys the edge over those with only the training - I'll take a battle scarred soldier over a pink faced officer any day. And I have to say that Sacred Marriage really burnt my flesh. As iron sharpens iron indeed. Grace is the part I need to really keep in the forefront. I tend to intellectualize, which really translates into 'legalize' things too much. The jots and tittles will get us into a world of hurt. Looking forward to a retreat at the Hermitage with my husband one of these days. Your blog really helps us. So thanks! I’m glad you’re human, Doc. I think it’s the life experience that gives you guys the edge over those with only the training – I’ll take a battle scarred soldier over a pink faced officer any day. And I have to say that Sacred Marriage really burnt my flesh. As iron sharpens iron indeed. Grace is the part I need to really keep in the forefront. I tend to intellectualize, which really translates into ‘legalize’ things too much. The jots and tittles will get us into a world of hurt. Looking forward to a retreat at the Hermitage with my husband one of these days. Your blog really helps us. So thanks!

]]> By: Roger http://hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Roger Wed, 23 Jul 2008 01:15:53 +0000 http://www.hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/#comment-62 And I totally agree with your perspective that others and our selves can have such high and unrealistic expectations of MFTs, especially Christian MFTs. I'm glad your wife has found my blog encouraging, and I'm with her on boycotting new usernames and passwords. :) And I totally agree with your perspective that others and our selves can have such high and unrealistic expectations of MFTs, especially Christian MFTs. I’m glad your wife has found my blog encouraging, and I’m with her on boycotting new usernames and passwords. :)

]]> By: Roger http://hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/comment-page-1/#comment-61 Roger Wed, 23 Jul 2008 01:13:35 +0000 http://www.hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/#comment-61 No way was I leading this one! Actually, my wife and I try to get out to this place twice a year, if at all possible. It's called The Parish Hermitage (http:www.parishhermitage.org) in St. Amant, located between Baton Rouge and New Orleans. Eddie Parish is a LMFT, as well as a gifted spiritual director. His wife, Judy, has such a gift for hospitality and really being present with people. Together, as they follow the Spirit's leading, they are an amazing team, and they personally tailor each visit to meet the needs of the guest(s). Check out their website. I'm sure you and your wife would be so blessed, if you are ever able to make the trek down here to South Louisiana. No way was I leading this one! Actually, my wife and I try to get out to this place twice a year, if at all possible. It’s called The Parish Hermitage (http:www.parishhermitage.org) in St. Amant, located between Baton Rouge and New Orleans. Eddie Parish is a LMFT, as well as a gifted spiritual director. His wife, Judy, has such a gift for hospitality and really being present with people. Together, as they follow the Spirit’s leading, they are an amazing team, and they personally tailor each visit to meet the needs of the guest(s). Check out their website. I’m sure you and your wife would be so blessed, if you are ever able to make the trek down here to South Louisiana.

]]> By: BigJosh80 http://hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/comment-page-1/#comment-60 BigJosh80 Tue, 22 Jul 2008 22:11:50 +0000 http://www.hopeforyourfamily.com/2008/07/18/renewed/#comment-60 Roger, who led the retreat? Wasn't you was it :)? You know, I've come to find out that one of the big misconceptions people have of mft's is the they have it all figured out when it comes to their own marriages and families. We struggle too. In fact, we might be a lot more stubborn to ask for help when needed because sometimes I think we buy into that misconception as well. I have a saying (I try not to live by it though) - "I became a therapist to help others change so I don't have to." Hey, way to set the example for the rest of us. I'm encouraged. Oh, and just so you know, my wife now reads your blog. She really liked your facebook one. She wanted to comment but wouldn't even entertain the thought of trying to remember a new username and password. Take care. Roger, who led the retreat? Wasn’t you was it :) ? You know, I’ve come to find out that one of the big misconceptions people have of mft’s is the they have it all figured out when it comes to their own marriages and families. We struggle too. In fact, we might be a lot more stubborn to ask for help when needed because sometimes I think we buy into that misconception as well. I have a saying (I try not to live by it though) – “I became a therapist to help others change so I don’t have to.”

Hey, way to set the example for the rest of us. I’m encouraged.

Oh, and just so you know, my wife now reads your blog. She really liked your facebook one. She wanted to comment but wouldn’t even entertain the thought of trying to remember a new username and password. Take care.

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